Welcoming a new baby in your life sounds like the best thing in the world, but it can be stressful and exhausting at the same time. Use these 6 tips to better handle the load and still smile beautifully despite all the new and demanding mom duties.
1. Look after yourself first.
Yes, you definitely need to take care of your baby but you also need to look after yourself! Despite the demands of being a new mother, make it a priority to eat healthy and drink plenty of water. Caffeine is not included in the major food groups so do not rely on it to get you through your day. Take the time to exercise and get some fresh air. When the baby is asleep, take advantage of this time to have a rest too or do activities that you enjoy. Establishing good habits will help you to keep your energy up while taking care of your new little one.
2. Establish visiting rules.
Once you bring your baby home, expect to receive a flock of friends and loved ones who are just dying to meet the latest member of your family. While it is always nice of them to drop by, make sure to inform them when is the best time to come over and admire your newborn. Pick a day when you do not have a lot to do and tell them how much time you can spare for a visit, too. Do not hesitate to let them know appropriate hygiene when dealing with the baby and ask them to wash their hands and if anybody is ill, just stay home and visit another time. Additionally, you can ask them to watch after the baby for awhile if you are just terribly tired and require much needed rest.
3. Go with the flow.
Do not let the OCD take over. It will be a busy time for you and a part of you may want to schedule everything. While there is a place for planned activities, you do not want to let these rule your day. Allow plenty of time each day for nursing sessions, naps, and even crying spells. Also, before heading out, always give yourself enough time to pack the supplies that you will need. You really do not want to be out and without a diaper change.
4. Be ready for an emotional roller coaster ride.
The first few weeks of having your baby will be rough. One day you are in tears and lost in awe in adoring your child but the next day you might be feeling sad with the loss of your independence and worried out of your wits about whether you are capable of raising your baby. Being tired does not help either. For all these times, remember that you only need to take it one day at a time. Try to relax and not vent your frustrations on your partner, because chances are, he is also tired. The best way to go about this is to talk it over and share whatever is bothering you.
5. Have realistic expectations.
Yes, the house requires cleaning and the clothes need to be folded and stored in the closet but do not put too much pressure on yourself. Relax your standards. Take tasks one at a time and do not be too hard on yourself if you do not finish them the way you used to do. Being a new mother is tough and you need time to adjust. The world will not end if you have peanut butter toast for dinner because you are too tired to cook a proper meal.
6. Spend time outside of the house.
If you need to do anything outside of the house, do not fuss and just take the baby with you. If you can’t, seek the help of a friend or a family member and ask them to look after the baby for a while. There is nothing wrong in accepting a helping hand, especially if the people around you are willing and trustworthy.